How to Fix Your Marriage before Infidelity Happens 
Is your spouse cheating on you or going through the lead-up stages to consider cheating? If she is in the lead-up stages there are things you can still do to turn your marriage around. This article can show you ways of how to fix your marriage before infidelity happens.
Men, I’m sorry but there is a very good chance that you don’t think there is anything wrong. There are two reasons for this, 1) as a man you are not paying enough attention to what is going on around you to know, 2) women have been practicing how to hide things for millennia now and most of them are absolute wizards at it. Unfortunately, many of the signs that indicate that a woman is getting bored with her marriage are mistakenly taken by men as proof that she is not.
One of the first things that you need to get into your head is that women are exceptionally wily, cunning, deceptive, and downright sneaky. They come by this quite honestly, from hundreds (thousands?) of years have having to exist in a world dominated by men who treated them as chattel. Through history, women have had to endure such things as; being raped, bought, sold, traded, beaten, killed, forced to wear clothing that hides their body and forced to wear some variety of chastity belt to name just a few and all at the whim and insecurity of their husband, master. With these years of training they have become artists at successfully doing things behind their spouse’s back.
So … men you have a tough go to pick up on the signs that your wife is cheating on you. As well, if she is cheating on you the chance of you fixing your marriage is likely very slim. With this in mind it is important that, if you want to be ready to know when and how to fix your marriage you are going to have to sharpen your senses and your observational skills. The sooner you get to work on fixing your marriage the more likely you will be able to affect change.
Some of the earlier signs to look for:
“ Your wife seems bored. She may be bored with her job, the kids, you, her life in general.
“ You may see signs of her being lazy, especially with respect to house work.
“ She may be showing signs low self esteem; not keeping herself up
“ She may be becoming less intimate with you.
While these are signs that may indicate that your spouse is starting to feel less certain about her marriage they may have other reasons for their appearance so don’t jump into action yet. They, as with anything human, may have causes. They should, however cause your “spidey senses” to perk up and be aware of what is happening around you. If they are not caused by the marriage but in fact by some illness, you should still be acting to help your spouse. But that is for another story.
You need to talk to your spouse about her present state and what she thinks the problem is. If she is not sure but talks about it to you, you should strongly encourage her to get a thorough check up. If the check up shows some medical problems the two of you need to deal with them to help get her back on the high road.
If your mate refuses to talk about it or is very evasive there is a good chance that she is bored or very uncertain about her marriage to you. This is no time for hesitation. You need to start developing a plan on how to fix your marriage.
One of the first things to do is to start, if you haven’t been, increase, if you have been, the amount of touching of her by you. This should be non-sexual touching; examples being shoulder caresses as you pass, hugs, kisses, back rubs/tickles, neck rubs, arm tickles, that sort of thing. Touching, you see, is a major bonding action. Touching the skin in a friendly, gentle way causes the body to release oxytocin which makes a person feel good and feel loving and friendly toward the one who is doing the touching. It is called the love or cuddle hormone and exists in all kinds of friendly human relations. This will help to increase the loving bond between you. I emphasize that this will help, not do the whole job.
Starting now you need to show yourself as an attractive member of the marriage. It may mean taking on a more active role in the duties of the home. It may mean learning some new skills in love-making, new ways of demonstrating ”I love you” or trying some
new “fun and games” activities in the bedroom. It may also be suggesting to your mate that the two of you take part in some couple counseling.Two excellent choices: Mort Fetel’s Marriage Fitness or Dr. Ellen’s Marriage Support. It definitely should be an increase in communication between the
